I thought this was obvious but let me clarify anyway, and that's the end of it.
Besnik: You did NOT receive an infraction for racism. You received an infraction for "Responding to an insult" - 3 points. Specifically, you called Nyall a "fucking retard" and said "fuck you".
Nyall: You received an infraction for insulting Besnik "Fuck you, you racist piece of shit!" - 5 points. I know you're not arguing that but since we're clarifying things I want everything to be clear.
On Racism: Monkey is a racial slur, it's common knowledge and I'm not going to give a lesson in English now. Gorilla is a term used to describe a large, brutish, or stupid man (regardless of skin color). I used to play football with a goalkeeper we called "The Gorilla". Microsoft is an 800 pound "Gorilla". Andre the Giant was referred to as a "Gorilla" by ringside commentators. Things are not a clear cut line because I also call my little daughter a monkey... that's not racist.
The point is, we're running a forum here and using best judgment to make it a pleasant environment for everyone. I have analyzed Besnik's words in their context and it's my decision that it was not intended as racist. You are welcome to your opinion and expressing it as well, as you have done.
However in no case will this be taken further, nor will two members throwing "fuck you"'s around be tolerated. Nyall, you should have just reported Besnik's post and moved on instead of holding a personal vendetta. Besnik you should have ignored Nyall's insults and moved on instead of swearing back at him.